Thats not something to be discussed on a public forum no matter the family's stance on it. Sure, alot of us are curious, but I know better than to ask, if i were to die tomorrow I sure as heck wouldnt want it to be an internet debate. Im pretty sure John would say something similar if he could.
I guess i'd like to share something (that i didn't elaborate on earlier because i was trying to remember more details) to bring it back on topic....
The enduring personal memory of JT that i know will last is the time i saw him in his element.... He popped out of the comet 5 cab of a long branch bound train past the fence at newark penn on platform D during the short layover it had there on track 4. I was leaning on the fence and we talked for a moment about how the system was behaving that day, slippery rails, and why the coast line trains have the layover. He was entirely friendly, and i got a sense that he really knew his railroad and was into railroad history. The world, NJ/NJT, and this forum lost a really great guy and the gap will be felt by many for quite some time.
Please forgive my crap memory.