According to all I've read, EL had millions set aside to revamp Marion yard which was wiped out by hurricane damage repairs, and then some.
It was that damage that wiped out their cash reserves entirely and led to bankruptcy. They may not have been 100%, but were more healthy than anyone else to that point, even with the per diem and related losses as a result of everyone else being under bankruptcy protection.
I find it highly unlikely that the road was looking for a merger yet planning to rebuild and modernize a major yard.
Had the hurricane not damaged the EL, most likely it would have followed a course similar to the D&H. I don't remember the when on how Dereco was done away with, but if that control continued most likely the change point would be the NS merger - at that point the EL would have either been merged into NS, or spun off on it's own to a new owner - perhaps even Guilford. The reforms generated by Conrail would have to have still come about for that road to succeed, and EL would also have benefited. It's even likely that with the EL's desire not to use the Tier east of Bingo as a main route, that it might have the same ownership as it does today, along with the Syracuse and Utica branches. (things like that all depend on what philosophy management could have taken, though, it's all armchair quarterbacking).
I agree the EL would have been a weak competitor to Conrail, but would have been in a much better position than the trackage-rights expanded D&H, to compete, especially if they picked up a line south out of the Jersey area to reach friendly connections as a condition of Conrail. They would likely have gotten the Sea-Land trains and would have been in position to be at the forefront of the container revolution, and with a mainline that bypasses a number of congested locations CSX and NS use today may even have been able to offer more competitve schedules on those trains.
I think though the ultimate result would be to see EL and Conrail each combined with one of CSX, NS, CN, CP or perhaps one of the western roads in some form by this point. It's not hard to see would CP still pick up the Soo and D&H, to want the EL as a natural all-US connection between them.
It's important to remember when discussing possible merger partners for the Lackawanna that the PRR owned about half of both the NKP and Wabash. The N&W owned a large percentage if not the entire other half of the two roads. This is why they went to the N&W when the PRR had to sell it's shares in preparation for the PC merger. A DL&W-NKP or DL&W-Wabash merger would have been very difficult to work out.